Cope With Grieving

Feelings come and go like the wind. When we grieve, feelings can be overwhelming. It can be hard to know how we feel. One moment things may even seem ok… or even good… Then the waves come and we are overcome with the unimaginable strength of our feelings.

Sometimes others are uncomfortable with feelings and want you to move too quickly out of feeling sad. But, sadness is a very normal part of grieving, as is anger, and loneliness, and so many other feelings. When we lose someone we love…feelings of all sorts come to the surface.

Feelings need no judgement. They are just what they are…”feelings”. They are to be honoured and felt in whatever way we need to feel them. When we pay attention to our feelings and allow ourselves to safely feel them, we find healing. When we ignore our feelings and expect ourselves to move too quickly through our grief, they will catch up with us later.

Make sure you give yourself and those around you permission to feel their grief. Don’t rush this process or let others rush it for you. If you find yourself stuck in your feelings ask someone to help you move through them.

Remember… BE with your feelings. Feel them. Let them move through you to healing.

This entry was posted on Friday, July 18th, 2008 at 11:16 pm and is filed under Balance In Grieving, Comfort in our Suffering, Healthy Choices in Grief, Honoring Grieving Feelings, Moments of Hope, Strangeness of Grief, When Grief Overwhelms. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.